I LOVE THE ANALOGY! This is the crossover that I need to understand more and attempt to make it seamless. No pushy behaviors but rather, incentivize users to join. For my needs (I am a gaming geared group as well), I have a lot more opportunities to enhance a users experience with a website than I do with Discord. Discord is great and I have bots in place to offer moderating behaviors and other suites of items however, there are things missing and things that well... like you said, aren't mom and dad's.