Cowboy Denny

Thanks Marc for the reply.
tracking has been disabled on sendgrid but the URL links are still present with some odd urlxxx in front of my domain.  I don't have that dns record defined so its going to fail.  I messed with it for the day and gave up knowing that sendgrid isn't going to work for me for lost passwords since the link must be specific to allow a user to reset there password.
I got email to work by getting AWS SES (Simple Email Service) to work using TLS and port 567 with the AWS supplied smtp server, user and credentials.  Now just trying to get out of sandbox mode so I don't have to confirm every recipient.
Thanks but this can be closed..  I solve it myself but appreciate the suggestions

In order to troubleshoot the issue, I re-installed Links Directory and I believe the error now gets handed off to stratagem
OutOfRangeException:  (0)
#0 /eventguyz.net/system/Application/Application.php(236): IPS\Patterns\_ActiveRecord::load('stratagem', 'app_directory', NULL)
#1 /eventguyz.net/system/Member/Club/Club.php(1350): IPS\_Application::load('stratagem')
#2 /eventguyz.net/system/Member/Club/Club.php(1893): IPS\Member\_Club->nodes()
#3 /eventguyz.net/system/Member/Club/Club.php(2033): IPS\Member\_Club->tabs()
#4 /eventguyz.net/applications/core/modules/front/clubs/view.php(130): IPS\Member\_Club->firstTab()
#5 /eventguyz.net/system/Dispatcher/Controller.php(101): IPS\core\modules\front\clubs\_view->manage()
#6 /eventguyz.net/applications/core/modules/front/clubs/view.php(120): IPS\Dispatcher\_Controller->execute()
#7 /eventguyz.net/system/Dispatcher/Dispatcher.php(153): IPS\core\modules\front\clubs\_view->execute()
#8 /eventguyz.net/index.php(13): IPS\_Dispatcher->run()
#9 {main}
I had some issues uninstalling and reinstalling stratagem but after a few tries and disabling any other third party I was eventually able to reinstall stratagem and re-enable the other 3rd party applications and now its working.
Issue has been resolved