My forum is music based, so there's people there that make their own songs and mixes. They'll sometimes post a direct link to an MP3 which then causes the MP3 player to auto-embed, but it would be nice if the player had a button on it so that people could download the file. Users end up using code tags or just deliberately breaking the link so that the player doesn't auto-embed so that people can download the file.

good question, I'm looking for the same!